Saturday, March 16, 2019

Maneuvering thru Parenting Labels...

(Context: This article!)

It’s so difficult to meander thru the many labels parenting gets. Every once in a while I panic - am I being a helicopter parent? Am I a lawn mower? Am I letting my child fail enough? Am I giving her opportunities to learn enough and grow enough?
I agree with all these articles and people that talk about failure, and acceptance of it being such an important aspect of shaping young minds but in everyday moments it is tricky - when do I hold back, when do I let go, when do I save her sand castle, when do I build her a snowman, when do I let her fall, when do I carry her in my arms...

Tuesday, March 5, 2019

Eavesdropping at a Play Date!

Play date with three girls. Still overhearing as I write...
G1: i had such a horrible day at school today.
G2: mine was bad too.
G3: mine sucked too!
G2: there are these few boys who keep pushing everyone during recess. I hate most boys.
G3: i hate boys too.
G1: what are you saying! I love boys! I hate my teacher.
....
G1: Have you watched the descendants?
G2: no, my mom says it’s not age appropriate.
G1: but I am some months younger than you and I watch it all the time. Your mom is wrong.
G2: but she is older she can’t be wrong.
G1: everybody can be wrong.
G2: even if my mom is wrong she is never going to admit it.
....
G3: there’s this boy in my class with a very funny name, bucket.
G2: that’s a very funny name
G3: but he is so handsome i might just marry him.
G1: but did he give you a ring yet.
G3: that can happen only when we are grown up
G2: yeah there’s this guy in my class i really like and want to marry but i will wait till i am my mom’s age to marry. Oh and he doesn’t even have a funny name.
...
G1: can i be the boss now?
G2: no, the person who is hosting the playdate gets to be the boss
G3: why cant we all be bosses
G1: that makes no sense - you cant be a boss till you have someone to boss over.
....
G2: i have a crush on you.
G1: awwwww i have a crush on you too.
G3: you guys are so funny.
All: awww aren’t we just so adorable - we love each other.
#KindergartenConversations 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️
(P.s. G2 is mine)