Wednesday, July 17, 2024

Wolf Tales!

 Getting ready to leave for somewhere…

Me: Manya are you ready?
M: Yes mom
Me (in disbelief): Have you even brushed your hair.
M (super offended): ofcourse, what do you mean?
Me (trying to not shout): your hair is all over your face - isn’t your vision imapaired! You look like a shaggy wolf!
(As those words were coming out of my mouth I braced myself for the hysteria my “hurtful, mean, insensitive words” were going to cause 🙄)
But here’s a twist,
Manya (sudden change of tone - absolutely delighted, joyous even): Are you serious mom?!
Really?! I was going for the wolf look - wolf bangs are in! You are so cool - you know what word to use when! Love you!
Needless to say I was in shock - compliments and love yous are getting rarer and often coerced. I was not sure if I should reiterate my point or just let it go.
Like any sensible tween parent would recommend, I let it go. Got a hug as well. I consoled myself - atleast I would not be able to see the rolling eyes as often and who knows my admission in the cool club might last the day!
(Got reminded of this today as she convinces me to get her a “proper, professional shaggy wolf hair cut” - it’s a thing folks, you have been warned!)

Wednesday, April 24, 2024

Mom got no rizz...

 When, why, and who decided the word “outfit” should be shortened to “fit”?

Other words I am learning but have been instructed never ever to use ðŸĪŠ:
- skibbidy
- Rizz
- Ohio (not the state)

Tuesday, March 5, 2024

Tween dating woes?

 M: Mom today C (a boy in her class) asked me when my parents would be okay with me to start dating.

Me: Why does he want to know?
M: Generally, we were discussing stuff. So I told him my mom says I can date when I am an adult, am done with my education, have a stable job, can pay my own bills and rent and have my own insurance.
Me: Yes. Exactly. Thank you.
M: He was very confused as to what any of it has to do with dating.
Me: Boys, you know…ðŸĪ“
M: ðŸ˜ģ

Wednesday, February 14, 2024

Learning from my tween...

 Adding to my slang vocabulary (obviously thanks to Manya)…

… Gyatt ….
it apparently means a large butt.
You are welcome. 🙄ðŸ˜ģ

Monday, November 6, 2023

Officially a "tween"!

Or that's what M proclaimed quite proudly this morning. The hurricane is 11 and continuing to turn our lives upside down!

I can begin to distinctly see mood changes or moody behavior. I used to think your kids always smell sweet to you till our pediatrician amusingly told me oh, you'll know! And oh yes, I do know now. :)

But the quintessential mature Manya - the one I can bank on to have my back in an emergency or an urgency, the one who makes the best travel companion, the one who is quick to compromise for the best in the situation, the one who just knows how to make you feel better - that quintessential daughter of mine just continues to shine thru the tantrums and the tween angst - fingers crossed! We have the trial by fire (teenage) awaiting us!

Manya and I are almost the same length, breadth and width now so it is part fun and part annoying stealing each other's shoes, clothes, accessories - as she wears my denims and i try to pull off her high waisted cargoes with cropped sweat shirts - shopping has gotten much more exciting for sure - the one time we are all buddy buddy with no fighting!

She continues to be a champ at school as always. For after school activities, we have closed doors to horse riding and gymnastics. It's piano (she's onto her 5th year now!), coding, and swimming for now.

Love you to bits Manya, continue rocking!





Monday, September 18, 2023

First solo trip (5th Grade Camp)

A mighty first this one. M's school offers a 2-night-3-day camp at a YMCA facility somewhere in the boonies (I am kidding, it's a popular spot) for all fifth graders. 

Manya has always been an independent kid - I mean her first day at play school or preschool or Kindergarten has never ever been one with distraught - she has been happy and well adjusted from day 1 and is mostly not weary of strange places or people - and having already had her sleepover in October last year, I knew she was more than ready.

Earlier this year in May, she had come from school with all the forms etc - super excited and with a strict instruction that I should not volunteer. Honestly, I was not even sure if I wanted to - but once she was so clear she didn't want me to - the decision was made. It was an easy one - putting myself in her shoes - I wouldn't want my parents on a trip with friends :). Ofcourse I did tease her and gave her some good natured grief on what she was planning to do in my absence :).

Fast forward to Monday last week and the day had come. But let's rewind to the weekend - oh my god - I just about held it together - not from sadness but madness - the kid has actually gone on me when it comes to packing overpacking. I did not know that that was a trait genetically bequeathed :). Fyi, my mom's an overpacker too. Anyways, she was packing two towels, two swim suits, 4 pairs of shorts, 3 pairs of joggers, eight pairs of tops, two pairs of pjs and the list goes on (the list of toileteries alone was mind boggling: face wash, body wash, shampoo, conditioner, toothbrush, toothpaste, floss - wtf flosses on camp? - face moisturiser for day, face moisturiser for night, body moisturizer, sunscreen for face, sunscreen for body, etc etc etc).  I asked her if she had plans beyond the camp because the rest of the school was going only for two nights. I learnt another fact, it is easy to cut down other's stuff than your own - so we went to war and finally reached a somewhat mutually happy packing list. 

This was also a mighty first for me. Vish's business trip coincided with the camp dates so I was home alone for two nights for the first time in 11 years!! Has to be a record of sorts. While I knew I'd miss my girl, I also chose to make the most of it. The first day straight after dropping her, I filled my gas tank up and drove to two remote outlet malls that I had always been wanting to go but never did - I drove 160 miles that day! Came home at 8 and slept soon after. The morning felt so weird - so quite, so long - that's the day I relearned that a day has 24 hours. I made myself a hearty breakfast and got to work (side note: I work on the district pta council board and there's always so much to do :). I had to edit web pages, create content, plan a program - all of that I accomplished on one single day. Heck, I even had time to update both my blogs :). I exercised and crashed early - no point messing with beauty sleep. The next morning I was kinda done being on my own :) I was missing the warm morning snuggles and cuddles, the incessant conversations - just her voice! Night 2 over and Day 3 had begun and it was time to bring her home - after a lovely brunch with my mommy friends, picked Manya up in the afternoon.

And after the first hugs and kisses and the first two hours of non-stop story telling I realized maybe I was too quick to feel so desolate in the morning :D :P - no I am kidding - but as we started winding down for the night one thing was for certain I had missed having this kitten in the house - alas there will be more days than less when she'll be on her own and all that I would ever want would be that she is happy and safe :).

As for Manya's side of the story, she had a blast, as expected - she says she was a little homesick at mealtimes and bedtimes. I knew bedtimes were going to be a challenge - apparently she hardly slept. At meal times she said "it was weird to not see you or hear your voice at all the whole day and then when I would sit down to eat with so many people I'd miss you". She was very quick to add that the rest of the times it was pure fun and she did not miss us one wee bit :);

Wednesday, August 30, 2023

First Day of Fifth Grade and Last Year of Elementary

I think I should rename this blog to "Time Flies". It seems just like yesterday that I was worrying aout Manya going to a full day Kindergarten in a new city with nobody she'd know. While loooking for homes to buy, the middle shcool didn't even feature in our conversations and guess what, we are here already. 

Too cool to pose for mom. Sassier, leggier. More spicy than sweet. Ms. Big-Know-It-All.

Me: I love you Manya, have a great year and a great day.
M: Don’t be sappy mom, I love you too!
❤️💔❤️‍ðŸĐđ❤️

Saturday, June 10, 2023

Parenting a "tween"

 I shared a funny quote on FB today. It goes: "My favorite thing about being a parent is being told I am wrong constantly by someone who is dependent on me for food, clothing and shelter."

It is hilarious but quite aptly sums up what I am going through these days with Manya. The first things out of her mouth after I am done talking are usually "No" or "Mom but you don't know", "You won't understand" or simply, "you are wrong". Like seriously, where is my lovely baby who looked up to me for answers on everyhing. I guess the years ahead are only going to get more difficult and this is just the preview. Humor helps. The song these days I absolutely love to annoy Manya with is here for you:



Tuesday, April 25, 2023

This ship has sailed!

 Anybody else feel like they can’t keep up with their 10 year old’s lingo!

M: Mom, do you know a lot of kids in class are shipping for so and so and so and so (insert two names)..
Me: Shipping for meaning? Shipping where?
M: MOOOOMMM - shipping - as in romantically connecting
Me: Seriously they say shipping these days??? That’s so suss!!! (Fyi, suss is what I learnt last year to mean suspicious apparently)
M: Mom, don’t try to be cool! Using suss and all!
Me: Bruh!
M: MOoom don’t do that! It doesn’t suit you!
Me: do you also want me to ship?
M: mom you are impossible!
Me: 😎😎😎

Wednesday, January 25, 2023

Mom needs AI babies!

 M: So mom I was reading somewhere that sometime in the future AI would make it possible for you to choose characteristics of your baby - not just physical ones but how much intelligence, kindness, empathy etc etc

Me: yep, have read bits and pieces here and there myself - sounds scary to me honestly - controlling human life like that.
M: Well - so tell me how much intelligence would you give me if you could make that decision.
Me: I don’t know - I think I would opt out of coding you - I’d just let you be - because else what individuality is left.
M: Hmm, so in a world where every parent is giving that advantage to their kid, you will choose to not give me that advantage - so you choose to give me a disadvantage.
Me (forced to give this more thought at bedtime than I would like): Hmm you make a very interesting point.
M: even today when you can’t code me you still expose me to books, experiences - you take me to the doc, give me shots, lecture me…you dont really let me just be … so how do you decide what advantages to give me and what not.
Me: I am impressed by your ability to think so deep on this - you are right - If everybody is coding their kid to be super intelligent… would I be pressurized to do the same - perhaps … but to what extent - what are we making then - human kids or robots … at that time I don’t know how my thinking will be influenced - it’s too hypothetical at this point anyways.
M: right - nobody has the right answers to everything. We ourselves don’t always know what’s best all the time.
Me: true…
M: that’s why you have to be patient - and not have so many expectations
Me (totally taken aback with the change in course of the conversation): what do you mean? I have minimum expectations…
M: well that’s what you think - I cant go to school, be regular with work, be well behaved, aaannnnd also keep my room clean.
Me (fast catching on and quite annoyed): Manya it’s Sunday night and you haven’t cleaned you room have you. You cant find a few minutes once a week to tidy up?
M: mom you should have waited to have a kid till AI makes it possible to code your babies.
Me: that is so unfair!
M smirks. and I tell her it’s too late now anyways to change those decisions so might as well clean up. She sighs loudly and makes it clear that she disapproves. I don’t care - I’ll take anything - as long as that room is tidied up. Phew…