Getting ready to leave for somewhere…
Me: Manya are you ready?
Me (in disbelief): Have you even brushed your hair.
M (super offended): ofcourse, what do you mean?
Me (trying to not shout): your hair is all over your face - isn’t your vision imapaired! You look like a shaggy wolf!
(As those words were coming out of my mouth I braced myself for the hysteria my “hurtful, mean, insensitive words” were going to cause 
)
)But here’s a twist,
Manya (sudden change of tone - absolutely delighted, joyous even): Are you serious mom?!
Really?! I was going for the wolf look - wolf bangs are in! You are so cool - you know what word to use when! Love you!
Needless to say I was in shock - compliments and love yous are getting rarer and often coerced. I was not sure if I should reiterate my point or just let it go.
Like any sensible tween parent would recommend, I let it go. Got a hug as well. I consoled myself - atleast I would not be able to see the rolling eyes as often and who knows my admission in the cool club might last the day!
(Got reminded of this today as she convinces me to get her a “proper, professional shaggy wolf hair cut” - it’s a thing folks, you have been warned!)
